Last night I met one of my best friends at The Ram in University Village, Seattle. I am working on getting a property in that area ready to be rented July 1st. My friend Hannah is one of the people in my life who has been a true, true friend. When I got home from Europe I only received one message as a welcome home, and it was from her. Her career is in the education of young women and I always learn something new about my world when we spend time together. She brought to light a truth about my approach to people last night, and I saw evidence to back her observation when I was at church this morning.
My truth, my world paradigm, is skewed. This may seem obvious to any thinking person, but I have been too proud to face this fact, and it has been a source for disappointment in my life. I tend to enter into relationships with an outcome in mind; a predetermined story of the people I am in community with. I also give glorious license to my imagination when it comes to the attributes of the people I admire. I can see potentials which will never be, because my hopes are not the image of the hopes of others. I realize that I am using ambiguous wording here, please forgive me. I need to protect the people I love.
I need to treat my heroes like people first; people as flawed as I am. I need to remember that my discovery of a person’s attributes is best when I allow it to simply be, when I am not trying to steer it in one of various directions. Like a rain shower may be light, or heavy, long or short in duration, it is not for the plants to be disappointed at the level of moisture they receive. And, if I cease looking for love where it does not exist, I am certain to find it abundantly where it does.
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Excellent observations and as usual such well crafted expression. Glad you’re still blogging even though you are state side.
Thanks Gary, and thanks for keeping up.